Things to remember when you're buried in books and don't want to study
I texted my sister who is currently in college: “Angela, I’m writing a piece rn that is student and study themed… what should I write about?”
And she said, “Letting siblings study for biochem.”
Honestly, I’m kind of at a loss here. It feels like ages ago that I was in my dorm or library studying for an upcoming test, preparing for a presentation, trying to cram as much info I can in my head before I sleep (or not), or even sewing something for my design classes…
Simply put, I can’t really speak to what college and studying was like for me because I just can’t remember…
but I CAN talk about what I did learn in fashion school, and hope that it somehow applies to what you are going through right now because it certainly still applies to me today even years after I have graduated.
1. It’s OK to not know what you want to do right NOW.
I know you picked a major and you’re taking classes within a certain discipline but newsflash: the learning doesn’t stop once college ends.
Your major/the college you graduate from is not the end all be all. Don’t think that you are limited to what you studied in college. There is no limit to what you can do after college, in fact graduation is just the beginning.
Post graduation, the amount of people I meet who actually do something related to their college major is actually very low (if that makes you feel any better). It’s OK to be unsure whether you’re 20 (or 46). As much as you are trying to pass your classes, try to remember that college is just the foundation and starting point- make it strong and sturdy.
2. Think about the kind of person you want to be, not just what you want to be.
Your job will change multiple times throughout your life as you grow and get experience, but you’re stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. Focus on building your character and knowing what you are and aren’t good at. Be honest with yourself on what is important to you. Stand your ground for your values. What you want to be and where, will always be subject to change, but if you know who you are in any context, you’ll be able to handle the stress, pressures and decisions with grace and confidence. You’ll spend less time on people/things that don’t matter and won’t be chasing things that don’t mean anything a year from now. Spend time getting to know yourself and getting comfortable with yourself. Then you can think about who you want to be in comparison to where you are, and how you can close that gap.
3. Pay attention to what draws your attention and your curiosity.
These are all hints of what you love, makes you happy and sincerely enjoy.
It can be as simple as reading, playing soccer or as complicated as analyzing huge amounts of data and matching it up with historical events. The more you know about what you like to do the more you can make the time to do more of it and possibly find or create a job that allows you to do it often.
Follow what catches your eye. Explore it further. Master it. Learn everything there is to know about it. Change it. Try it and find out that it’s not what you thought. Even if it doesn’t make sense, keep doing more of what you’re curious about.
The time will pass anyway, at least enjoy it.
4. Figure out how you deal with stress.
You’re studying a lot about statistics, history, art, etc not to mention living in an environment that isn’t “home” so there is bound to be something that is stressing you out, whether it’s deadlines, or classmates, tuition or internships.
Taking time to pause and figure out how you cope with stress is extremely important.
Do you like to talk things through or internalize? Do you listen to your head or heart/intuition? Do you avoid confrontation and run away from stress or do you communicate your concerns? Does working out help you? Is social media toxic to you?
In a world that is constantly changing, being able to understand how you process things and perceive the world is crucial to how you can respond to what happens to you.
5. Take advantage of your time in college.
When you’re in college you have the advantage of being old enough to do things, but young enough not to not have the full load of a working professional. Take advantage of this unique position and make use of the free time and resources that you have whether it be the college discount, college connections, college schedule, etc. I don’t think there’s a better time than college to really explore everything that you are and like.
I know this is a lot and some of it might not make sense, but I think the gist here is to take steps in the right direction, one that will enrich your future and help you become a better person later in life. So long as you’re moving forward and making progress, you are making small changes today that could have a big impact on the circumstances that you find yourself in tomorrow or next year.
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
Studying for that exam/final is just one hurdle you have to pass in the school of life!
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